It’s a two letter word, simple, easy to pronounce. Yet how many of us have a hard time saying it? Saying “no” to someone? How many of us feel that we have to always make everyone happy, perhaps because if we don’t they won’t like us?
Saying “no”, does not make you a bad person. It does not make you less important and if someone only likes you for the things you do for them, they ain’t worth your time and friendship.
I also have this problem, saying “no”. Not because I think people won’t like me if I do, but because I feel that I don’t want to miss out on anything, I don’t want to make people sad and for a long long time, I thought it was my duty to make others happy, especially family and friends.
With time, I learned to put my own needs first. That doesn’t mean I completely stopped saying “yes” to everything, but it also doesn’t mean I never say “no”. I learned that it is ok to do something if you want to, just as much as is it ok to say “no” to something you don’t wish to do.
No excuses, no reasons. Just “no”.
Once you have learned to do so, you will feel a lot better. You will appreciate the small things more, you will appreciate the things you wish to do and you won’t resent yourself for doing something you don’t want to do in the first place.
How hard is it for you to say “no”? Let me know in the comments below!