When I shared our Engagement on my Instagram, I got a lot of positive comments and direct messages. Amongst them were also requests to write about the wedding process on the blog. Organizing a wedding may be intimidating, but I found out there’s a way to make it simple and fun. Keep on reading to find out how!
WEDDING WEDNESDAY: THE TWO FIRST STEPS TO ORGANIZING A WEDDING
As a rule of thumb, you should start organizing your wedding as early as possible. That does not mean you have to start the moment you say yes! You can take some time to regroup with your fiancé and make sure you are on the same page. I personally feel that is the most important thing: for the two people getting married to want the same thing. Don’t get me wrong, you won’t both want the exact same things on everything but that’s where compromise comes in.
Hiring a wedding planner can be a huge help, but can also get very expensive very quickly! We organized our wedding alone and I can assure you it isn’t hard to do it, as long as you follow a few steps to make things easier!
The first thing you and your partner should do when you start organizing your wedding, before anything else, is set up a budget. A wedding can cost up to a few ten thousands of Euros and knowing how much you can spend makes a difference in a lot of things.
Some countries have the costume of the parents of the bride paying for the reception, in some countries the parents of the couple pay for the whole wedding between themselves. There are a ton of traditions all over the world when it comes to weddings and who pays them. Our families helped us with the finances and we requested the guests gift us money instead of having a registry.
Our wedding was still within the budget we had calculated, but that extra help meant we didn’t end up taking so much from our own savings. We didn’t take any outside help for granted when we calculated the wedding and thus did it with a budget that we knew we could afford without any outside help. Getting into debt over a wedding – regardless of how amazing it could be – was out of the question for us.
SET THE DATE
Now, some people tell you to set the wedding date first but this is something I disagree. You may want or have to pay for your own wedding and you may or may not already have the funds to do so. But you may also have to save up for a few months to get to the amount you need. This is why I personally feel that the budget should be tackled first! Once you know how much you can afford, you can start planning the date.
Generally, the wedding season months go from late spring to early fall. In other words, from June to September you can expect to pay more for your wedding. (please note I am taking into account the weather seasons of the northern hemisphere) That is not to say you can’t get married anytime else in the year. One of my best friends got married in December – and had a beautiful wedding!
We got married in April. We didn’t want a Summer wedding, for more reasons than just the price: it can be too hot to enjoy yourselves, there’s the sweat, the hours in the sun. Also, it’s just so cliché to get married in May or June and we just didn’t want it for our wedding.
Some venues also have different prices depending on the month you book, so that is something worth looking into. Typically venues have two prices “categories”: from May to September and from October to April. Once you have the date set, you can start looking into locations!
A wedding is a once-in-a-life experience and organizing can quickly become overwhelming. Start with these two steps and you’re off on a good start! Are you married? Did you organize your own wedding? Let me know!